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No emotion is stronger than fear. The brain is specially designed to detect potential dangers. Here you can read ten tips for a better coping with anxiety, from expert psychologists.

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This article is based on advise from thet psychologists Gerd Kvale and Bjarne Hansen, which outlines their perspectives in an article on

The two are known to have developed and introduced a method for treating OCD or obsessive-compulsive disorder. The feedback on the treatment is very good - and the experience is that many people get rid of anxiety in just four days (!). The results show that seven out of ten are marked better in relation to the anxiety on these four days in treatment.

In this post, I will share ten pieces of advice on anxiety, which Kvale and Hansen point out. Then it can be nice to know that these are skilled psychologists, who know what they are talking about. 


1. Dare to hope. 

Gerd Kvale and Bjarne Hansen write:

Although there is effective treatment, many find it difficult to believe that this also applies to them. Anxiety has often crept into most areas of life and fills everyday life. For many it has been so long, and for some for decades.

Often the thoughts and problems are experienced as so shameful and different that it is difficult to believe that change is possible.

They say that everyone they meet has tried to do something about the problems on their own, but without success. Many have been in other treatment without it working. It is also common to be afraid of being disappointed. But they also write:

Fortunately, we have seen time and time again that the treatment works even if the patient does not have much faith in this in the first place. Our first and most important piece of advice is therefore: Dare to hope!


2. Dare to imagine a life without the anxiety disorder. 

They further write that they recommend that you dare to imagine what a life without the anxiety disorder will be like.

What are you looking forward to? What are you going to be able to do? 

Hearing what you are looking forward to and what is at stake does something to us therapists. We better understand who you are and know how unfair and wrong it is that you can not experience joy in situations most people take for granted.


3. Set goals. 

The following tips are described as follows:

A good life consists of a wide range of thoughts and feelings. If you are suffering from an anxiety disorder, you have a project where you try to gain control and where you experience that you do not succeed.

Treatment is not about getting support so that you can continue this project, but to get help to get out of it.

It's about getting help so you take the chance to experience more.


4. Take responsibility for your own improvement. 

It is scary to choose treatment, and it costs to carry it out, the psychologists point out.

When you first enter, we recommend that you do not do this halfway, but leave it so that you get paid for the effort. You deserve it!


5. Seek support - not anxiety reduction. 

Psychologists recommend that you think about how your problems affect those close to you, and that you consider whether you are actually seeking advice, support and reassurance that will help maintain the anxiety disorder. Feel free to describe the treatment so that your loved ones can also understand the difference between support and reassurance, they recommend.


6. Do not give up. 

Sometimes the goal is perceived as very far away or completely unattainable, is the next point. They write:

It can be difficult to imagine what a life without anxiety can be like, and it is tempting to give up. When it feels the heaviest, we recommend that you set specific and short-term goals and stay focused on these.


7. Do not continue on a path whose direction is wrong. 

If the treatment does not give results, the psychologists recommend that you stop to assess whether there are conditions that need to be changed so that it is better suited for effective treatment.


8. Consider whether you want to share your experiences. 

Many people experience that it can be useful to share experiences from life with an anxiety disorder and the way out of it, Gerd Kvale and Bjarne Hansen point out. There can be many arenas for this. They write:

We often invite former patients to participate in connection with teaching or if it is relevant with features in the media. For some, this is perceived as enriching and as a mark of the change they have experienced.


9. Apply what you have learned in other areas of your life as well. 

Most psychologists have worked with say that through the treatment they have learned something that is useful in meeting other challenges as well. This can also apply to you, they say.


10. Proceed in your life. 

Last point:

You are not an anxiety disorder. It's something you're affected by. Some experience shame associated with becoming ill, and others focus on lost opportunities. We recommend that you focus on your newfound freedom and move on.

Then it is in the cards that one of the things that may be necessary to get better from anxiety is to seek professional help. To get in touch with the specialist health service, you usually need to contact your doctor, who can refer you.

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